It Will All Work Out: The Freedom of Letting Go by Kevin Hart

Author:Kevin Hart
Language: eng
Format: azw3, epub
Tags: Self Help, Humour, Biography
ISBN: 9781662511035
Publisher: Amazon Original Stories
Published: 2023-08-01T07:00:00+00:00

HOW TO TAME THE CONTROL MONSTER

EVENTUALLY, YOU’LL REACH A POINT where you are fed up with the Control Monster. You need to destroy it so you can finally be free and happy.

But how do you do that when it’s been protecting you your whole life?

Will you be safe?

Is it even possible?

When you face this monster to start training it, the first thing that can happen is feeling a need to control your overwhelming need to control. You get stuck in your head even more and make a bigger mess of yourself.

The first thing to understand if you want to be free is that letting go is the only way. And that might sound scary. After all, you’ve spent your whole life trying to avoid this. But if you look back on it, your need to control didn’t make things any safer. It only made them smaller. It will ultimately shrink everything, from your joy to your relationships to your life span.

Letting go frees up so much energy and thought power. It will create space in your life, space that you need to grow into who you can be. More people, more opportunities, and more of life will flow into that space, because nature abhors a vacuum.

Most of all, you’ll feel a hell of a lot better. Because when you’re stuck in control mode, you’re constantly anticipating negative consequences. Even though most of the time those consequences never happen. You’re living in a constant catastrophe before any problem even presents itself. So to tame this monster, the first tool you need is logic.

Every time this creature rises up and tries to take control, you talk it down with logic.

At work, a member of my team might have a big call with a producer, and the monster will speak through me and say, “You know what, let me call them, because I don’t want you to say the wrong thing.”

This is when I have to tell the monster, in a louder voice: But they won’t mess this up. They’ve studied the talking points all week. And even if they do say something wrong, you’ll be fine. Give them a chance to grow and learn, while I relax and focus on the bigger picture.

Then, the moment the monster backs down, I get to tell that person on my team, “You know what, you got this. You’ve been prepping for it all week. Go ahead and knock it out of the park. Let me know how it goes, champ!”

Instead of belittling this person, I’ve empowered them. If I continue to do this with everyone, rather than just having one player on my team, I will start to have a genuine team full of superstars. And I can sit back and just be the coach.

Here’s another example: My wife drops down on the couch and puts the baby beside her, and the Control Monster will go, “Don’t put the baby there—he’s going to fall off!”

She’ll look at me like I’m crazy and tell me she’s right there next to the baby; nothing’s going to happen.

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